My Daughter Loves Superheroes (and why that’s okay with me…)

Side Note: I wrote this post on a former blog of mine after the Aurora movie theater shooting occurred, and it felt it would live well on this new blog. Enjoy this throwback post. 

 

My daughter is in love with Superheroes. Particularly Batman (she’s gone through Spiderman, and Captain America stages too), but Batman has always been consistent.

A lot of mom’s try to gear superheroes for boys and princesses for girls. It’s a case of ideas about gender roles and what girls should like. And don’t get me wrong, Zo loves her princesses too. Particularly Rapunzel and Tiana. I have absolutely no problem with that, however I find special joy when she wants to watch Batman over Snow White. And it’s something deeper than just thinking that my kid looks like a badass for it.

I allow her to watch superhero cartoons because I want her to embrace the fact that there is good, and there is evil. In life, priorities, desires, morals can get all twisted, and she could and will make bad choices, but I hope and pray she lives a life of a superhero. Defending the weak, poor, hurt, and scared. Fighting against the corrupt, the cruel, and the evil. And honestly, I think no better superhero embodies this than Batman. Sure, in front of the mask he might be an insanely rich pretty boy, but deep down he aches for those brought down by injustice, and he takes action.

There are many debates that can spur from whether or not people should take justice into their own hands. And I’m not necessarily hoping my daughter becomes some masked vigilante. What I want is for her to see pain and hurt in others, and take some action — whatever that is. This is what superheroes do — they are the epitome of action, and that is why it is so important to me that Zo watches them and hopefully embraces them.

(side note – I’ve had this idea for a blog post for awhile now, but with the recent events in my home state of Colorado, I thought it was particularly appropriate. Thoughts and prayers to all the victims).

“The night is darkest just before the dawn. And I promise you, the dawn is coming.” – Harvey Dent, The Dark Knight

 

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FREE Halloween Printable!

With Halloween just around the corner, I’ve been busy adding printables to my Etsy store. But I thought I’d share a fun little 6×6 printable with my blog followers! Just click the picture, download, and print! This is for personal use only, enjoy! 

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What Being Broke Taught Me About Money….

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Since I’ve been out of the military, living civilian life, with a young daughter, I’ve learned a lot about finances. It has been a struggle these past 4 years, and I’ve had to make a lot of choices financially that have been really hard (or even embarrassing). Being broke isn’t fun. In fact, I have had many restless nights, trying to figure out how to stay afloat. I know a lot of people who have been or are in the same boat as me, and I wanted to share what being broke has taught me.

1. It’s taught me that money really isn’t everything. – I often have felt guilty for not being able to get Zoey the things she “wants.” But I started realizing after saving money for some really expensive things for her, that she’s more amused by the cheap stuff. The things I can find at the dollar bin in Target or at The Dollar Tree. And making her feel special means spending time, not money. So, I’ve become much more content with getting an ice cream from McDonald’s than spending $60 for sub-par food at T-Rex.

2. Money can show you what your priorities, and that can be humbling.

3. Always carry cash. Always, always, always. Or if you don’t carry it, at least have a stash. I used to think that cash burned a hole in my pocket, but it’s turned out to be quite the opposite. It’s so easy for me to swipe my debit card over and over, getting ahead of myself, but if I have a set amount of cash, it helps keep better tabs.

4. Save $1 or $2 every day, and it will accumulate fast!

5. If you can’t change your financial woes right now, come up with real solutions for how you can fix them in the future (and it will take some time…a lot of time, in my case).

6. Don’t stay in denial too long. This has been my biggest problem. I get so easily overwhelmed when I see how far behind I’ve fallen or how long I have to go, but I could’ve prevented a lot of these issues if I wouldn’t have tried to sweep them under the rug. The bills won’t suddenly disappear, so you better figure out a way to handle them, or you’ll end up paying more in the long run. <—This one is something I’m battling with currently. It’s tough, but I’m making some progress.

7. And lastly, being broke has humbled me. A lot. I have learned to keep myself in check when I start judging those with money troubles. It is really true that you never know what situations or hard times could’ve fallen on people. I’m glad that I’m not living in a small-minded bubble anymore. People are more than the money they make…or don’t make. And struggling can sometimes give you a much clearer picture of what’s truly important in life.