Dear Zoey,

There’s a lot to be outraged about in this world. A lot of bad things happen to great people. Injustice seems to surround us wherever we go. And believe me, I’m the first one to pipe in when I see something that is cruel or unjust or mindless. (Okay, I’m an introvert, so actually I observe for days and days and days after tons of research and thinking, and THEN I say something…)

However, what I’m finding with the ever increasing consumption of media in our lives…is that people become enraged about EVERYTHING all the time. And what seems to be happening is a little like the “boy who cried wolf” story. If you become enraged about everything, and are quick to scream and protest and raise your red flag, you will eventually fall on deaf ears. And unfortunately, some really important issues are pushed to the side because of this.

So, I think there’s a delicate balance to find. Standing your ground and being firm in your belief system is important. It’s important to script out what our “personal” mission statements are. What we value. How we want to be treated. And most importantly, how we want to treat others. But there has to come a point where you stop talking and start doing. As cliche as it’s become, Gandhi had it right when he said, “Be the change you wish to see in the world.”

So, I guess what I want for you is to not be afraid to speak up. That’s usually the first step in change — acknowledging the problem, but then take action. It’s easy to repost articles and memes and quotes and hashtags, it’s a lot more difficult to stand up and say, “This is wrong, and I’m going to do something about it.” And frankly, I’ve failed pretty hard at this, but I’m learning. And I hope that you and I can change the world.

Be the change,

Learning to Feel Good in Your Skin



So, I’m about 75% through my P90X3 journey. I’ve done P90X a few times before, but could never wrap my life around the long workouts from it. P90X3 offers great 30 minute workouts, which is perfect. It still can be a challenge to fit it in some days, but it’s become such a routine that I willingly find the time. But here’s my biggest discovery through this process.

I started off tracking my weight, tracking my inches. And I was seeing great improvements, but about halfway through, I had an epiphany. I felt good and I just didn’t care about the numbers anymore. I know, I know…this is a big no-no in the realm of weight loss and working out, but it just wasn’t my motivator anymore. And I don’t really know why it happened. I wasn’t trying to make some grand statement or be a rebel. I didn’t even really make a decision, I just really didn’t care about the numbers. If my numbers were higher than the week before, it didn’t phase me because I just felt good and healthy.

I know there’s a lot of shaming going around these days. Fat shaming, skinny shaming, real food shaming, processed food shaming…shaming, shaming, shaming. And I’m just kind of sick of that shit. So, here’s my response to all of it: Do what feels good. Being comfortable with my body has been a fight I’ve fought for majority of my life. I’ve had two pregnancies, one full-term and a lot of emotional ups and downs throughout the last decade. And within the past year, I learned something huge…you become what you put your energy into. And instead of putting my energy into being angry at my body or constantly comparing myself to someone else…I put my energy into feeling good. Doing things that made my life positive and peaceful. The better the energy I put out, the better I felt.

And I know I’m making it sound like it’s such an easy fix. It’s not. It takes a lot of baby steps, with some missteps and some falling down. I’m certainly not an expert on this, but I think sometimes, especially in fitness, we’re so focused on the results that we forget the journey. I haven’t lost many more pounds since the first 30 days of this process, but the amount of things I can do with my body now that I couldn’t do in the beginning is pretty incredible. At the end of my 90 days, I’ll post my before and after pics, but the contentment I’ve found with myself and body far outweigh the physical progress.

August Playlist

So, August was INSANE for me. I’m assuming it’s like that for a lot of us. So, this playlist is a little bit of my “helps-me-chill-out” music and a little bit “get-me-motivated-and-in-the-groove” music. I should also mention that I’m a creative writing major, so a lot of the music I put on my playlists helps me write. Enjoy!