5 Things I Miss About Public School As a Homeschooling Mom

Last week, I posted about how much we’ve loved homeschooling. It’s been such an experience for the both of us, and one that I won’t ever forget. Ever. That being said, it is not all daisies and rainbows. By the end of most days, I need to send her off to her room or somewhere away from me — not because she’s been awful or anything — my energy level is just shot by the end of the day. Which leads me into 5 things I miss about public school…


5 Things I Miss About Public School (As a Homeschooling Mom) // Cue to Cue Mama


Alone Time

I am an introvert. Z is an extrovert. She is an only child. And we are homeschooling in a place we just moved to. This is taxing on any mom, but for this introverted mama, it is 100% overwhelming at times. Luckily, when E is home, he takes over, allowing me to escape and take a breather. There are also some days where I have to give Zo more independent time stuff to do because I just have to be by myself for a few moments. When she was in public school, I had 7 hours to work, write, run errands, catch up on school…etc.


Holiday Parties, Fun Themed Days, and Special Events


I know this seems trivial (especially since I just talked about needing alone time, haha), but I really miss all the fun events, themed days, and parties. The staff and teachers always made things like this so fun, and it gave the parents an opportunity to get creative. While I can still be creative and do fun stuff, it’s not in the same way — and to be frank, doesn’t feel nearly as exciting.


The Extra Pressure of Homeschooling


Parenting comes with this lovely thing called guilt. We’re always wondering what we’re doing that will inevitably screw up our kid in the future. Constantly feeling like we’re not doingΒ enough. This sense of guilt has only been amplified with homeschooling. I’m constantly questioning if I’m giving her enough, if she’ll be behind when she goes back to public school (yes, we plan on sending her back to public school once we move from FL), and whether or not this will all turn out to be a horrible decision. And these thoughts go through my head every day….multiple times a day. With public schooling, while I had my definite issues with the “system” of education, I knew, at her old school, that she was getting an education, she was learning and growing, and she had really great adults surrounding her that could be a lot more objective about her learning.


Parent – Teacher Conferences


I know, I know. Nobody likes conferences — well, I do. I loved being able to hear about how Z interacted in a classroom setting, hearing about areas in which she excelled, and what areas we could focus on a little bit more. I loved hearing how invested her teachers were in her life. It’s a really powerful thing when you see another adult care so deeply about teaching and helping your child.


Linear Learning


Again…I know, I know. Part of the reason we’re homeschooling right now is to add freedom to her learning and to escape the insanity of testing and suffocating standards. But part of me still misses being able to clearly define what point A to point B was. This is the control freak in me, I know. And sometimes the thing that is most overwhelming with homeschooling is that there is no right or clear way to do things. While I 100% believe that learning should be adaptive and fluid, I do sometimes wish for a clearer path.


All of this being said, I still know that these next few years of homeschooling will be worth it, and I really try to be present for this time in our lives because it won’t always be this way, and I’m so grateful for this season.

23 thoughts on “5 Things I Miss About Public School As a Homeschooling Mom

  1. Georgiana says:

    I hadn’t considered some of those things, but you’re right. There are some good points to public school that I’d forgotten about. We’ve been homeschooling for so long I can’t imagine any other way. Some day we might make a different decision, but I hope it’s not anytime soon.

    • Amanda says:

      I think it’s always good to remember the “good” in the other…if/when we go back to public school, I will always remember the great things gained from homeschooling.

  2. Mary Barham says:

    Girl…. you nailed it! I am a former teacher who now stays home with my babies. I miss the parties and themed days without a doubt… and the fact we got a teacher’s planning period.

    • Amanda says:

      Thanks so much! There are some really great, fun things with public school, but some really great, fun things about homeschool as well! πŸ™‚

  3. jasmine hewitt says:

    There’s good and bad in everything-I was homeschooled after grade 4 until 12th, and i wouldn’t do it with my son, but it’s important to remember why you chose it to begin with. I like this post!

    • Amanda says:

      Thank you so much! I think it’s so important to remember that what’s good for one family/child, won’t necessarily work for the next!

  4. Ellie Augustin says:

    I just started homeschooling my youngest (ever of my 4 she’s the only one I’ve attempted) preshcool and It is NO joke although it is rewarding and I love watching her light up as she learns. I LOVE our teachers that much more for all that they give to our kids in school and how much they give. My girlie will go into preschool next year w/ her siblings and I’ll look forward to interacting with her there but I will cherish this school year indeed.

  5. Candace @ Fullest Mom says:

    There are benefits to both, but you have a great break down of honest examples. We really considered homeschooling but instead are doing charter. I like to be involved in the syllabus and I’m glad that our school goes a little deeper than traditional public. All the best to you and your family.

    • Amanda says:

      I love that there are so many options available to parents to find a learning rhythm that really works for their children and families. Good luck with moving forward with the charter!

  6. April says:

    You go mama! Finding the balance is always difficult, but I appreciate your list! I’m a mama/ public school teacher and your list made me chuckle. Holiday/ theme parties and parent-teacher-conferences are things I would TOTALLY miss as a homeschooling mama! One thing to mention – If you have a mom’s group/ church friends/ homeschoolin’ mama friends, maybe you could get together once a month (or quarterly) and schedule theme days? “Dress as your favorite book character” and take turns sharing your book? “PJ Day” …. There are some theme days that could take minimal planning… Not sure if you have groups to make it an option? I’ve also had homeschool kids come into our school and be a part of the classroom on theme days. Sometimes it’s super cool for the kids, and other times it’s more nerve wrecking because they are nervous about not knowing the kids in the classroom. Either way, I thought I would mention it.

  7. Tiffany | shortsweetmom says:

    I was homeschooled all the way through high school so I never experienced these things in school but we did a great network of friends and support. You could join a co-op to give you and your daughter a break from the norm. πŸ˜€

  8. Laura Roth says:

    Oh, I could totally see how you’d miss those things! My kids do attend public school, but cherish the time you get to spend with them homeschooling. You are building up SO many wonderful memories with them!!

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