5 Traditional Wedding Items You Can Do With OR Without

I apologize to anyone who is involved with the wedding industry, especially if I convince someone to forego something you sell/make..etc. (I’m sincere). 🙂

5 Traditional Wedding Items You Can Do With or Without. // Cue to Cue Mama

I’ve been reflecting a lot lately about how wedding marketing (or really, any marketing..) makes every decision a bride/groom decides seem like the most important decision of their lives. Don’t get me wrong…I love planning my wedding. I love planning events, in fact (a little ironic since I’m such an extreme introvert, but take note that I said I love planning, not necessarily attending).

Wedding details make me swoon. My wedding Pinterest boards are a bit out of control. But none of these decisions are the most important decision of my life. It doesn’t matter what flowers I choose, or dress (gasp), or cake. I’ve been to several weddings in the last few years and frankly — I don’t remember the food (I remember I ate, but that’s about it). I definitely don’t remember the cake. I remember how beautiful the bride was (which didn’t necessarily have anything to do with the dress). But what I remember from each wedding is how good of a time I had (or didn’t have). I remember dancing. I remember laughing. I remember drinking (sorry, but it’s true). I remember celebrating!

This post isn’t to try and convince you to scrap any and every wedding tradition. And it certainly isn’t here to make you feel judged for it. But if you’re really trying to cut down costs, or you’re not one for tradition, or you just wanna challenge yourself with something new, here’s a few areas you can cut down.

#1 The Cake


Oh man, I am fascinated by cake-making. It is such an incredible skill (and one that I wish I had). In fact, one of the things I miss most about having cable are watching cake competitions. And there are so many beautiful, creative, and fun ideas when it comes to wedding cakes. So, if I haven’t established it enough already — I love wedding cakes. That being said, we’re probably not gonna have one. Cakes are crazy expensive (okay, I shouldn’t say crazy because I know they take an enormous amount of time, patience, and talent). But they also aren’t necessary. And if you’re having a large wedding, cakes can really start to break the bank. There are so many creative ways to forego a wedding cake too. Dessert bars, donut cakes, oreo cakes, and cupcakes. If you really want a wedding cake, go for it. But if you’re not all that into it, it’s okay to skip too.


#2 Save the Dates


I made our Save the Dates and had them printed through Vistaprint, so they were cheap and easy. I knew we were going to have a bigger wedding {sigh…}, and a lot of those invited lived out of town, and we’re getting married on a holiday weekend. So, I thought Save the Dates were a little more useful for us because it was a mass way to communicate and help people prepare, if they actually wanted to make the trip. There have been plenty of weddings, however, that have done without the Save the Date, and it was just fine.


#3 Videography


Oh my goodness. This one is difficult because I loooooove a well-shot wedding video. Videography has gotten so complex and beautiful. It is probably the one thing I wish we could fit in our budget. And while I think videographers are justified in charging what they do, it’s just not in the budget for us. So, I’m considering using Wedreel. Basically, anyone who has recorded anything at your wedding/reception can upload it to your site on Wedreel then editors compile everything together and make a cohesive wedding video. It’s obviously not going to be as smooth or “artsy” as having an actual videographer, but it can at least get the job done. My dilemma comes with the ceremony. I’m actually pretty fond of little to no phones out during the wedding. I like the idea of everyone being totally present for the ceremony because frankly, that’s the important part. So, I might just give one person the job of recording the ceremony, and then everyone can participate at the reception.


If you have a local college nearby, you can also reach out to the students. Many of them have demo reels they can share with you to show off their aesthetic, and since they are trying to build a portfolio, their rates will be severely discounted. (KU Film Department, here I come!)


#4 A DJ


Now, hear me out. A good DJ can make a great reception. However, there are so many tools now that, if they’re not in your budget, or you can’t find one that matches your musical aesthetic well, you can DIY it. Be mindful that DJs serve as more than just “master music players.” They also help transition the night’s events, get your crowd involved, and can troubleshoot equipment issues quicker than you can. I’ll be honest, this is a decision that I’ve gone back and forth on several times. However, if the budget’s tight, it’s possible to DIY it and still do great!

#5 Wedding Planner


I feel like I need to preface this one A LOT. After attending many a wedding, running the day of coordination for one, and now planning my own — wedding planners/day of coordinators are EXTREMELY useful. But if you’re a DIY bride, like myself, or a master organizer (also, like myself), you may feel like you can forego this service altogether, and you would be right. However, and a big however, if you forego the day of coordinator, the responsibility of chatting with vendors, making sure details are taken care of at both venues (if you’re having the ceremony separate from the reception venue), and helping the process of the day/evening move along will fall squarely on your or one of your friends/family’s shoulders. I’m lucky, one of my bridesmaids is an Event Planner/Coordinator (Check her out at Hyer Expectations), so I am lucking out big time with help, but if she wasn’t, I think I still would’ve sprung for at least a day-of coordinator. Now, if you really can’t add that to the budget, chat with a good acquaintance or delegate mini-responsibilities to your wedding party.  My decision for having at least a day-of coordinator: I want my friends and family members to be with me, celebrating with me. I don’t want them having to scurry around and fuss over the details. So, while, yes, you can pass up on this, I would really recommend that you don’t.


What are some ways you chucked tradition to save some dough? I’d love to hear in the comments!

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