Can Everyone Just Calm the Hell Down? – Holiday Edition

Ha. I wanted to type something else in the title of this post, but decided to keep it PG.

I’m a part of quite a few homeschooling/parenting groups on FB. And normally, they’re a great place for support, but every once in awhile, I just want to scream “CAN WE ALL JUST CALM THE #$%@ DOWN?!” There was a huge discussion on one of the groups about whether or not to teach your kids to believe in Santa Claus, and if you decide not to, how to handle conversations with other kids that do.

I, for one, think this conversation is really…unnecessary. And frankly, I have enough unnecessary conversations a day with an inquisitive seven year old who wants to know everything about everything.

Yet somehow…I feel a need to comment (ah, the modern age, where everyone feels entitled to share their opinion regardless of the venue–luckily, this is my blog…hehe). But my comment is really simple. Very, very, very simple.

Don’t be an asshole.

Before anyone throws their arms up in complete and total offense — let me be clear. If you don’t want to teach your kids about Santa — great. That’s fine. The cool (albeit tedious, stressful, and at times, soul crushing) part of parenting is you get to filter what you want to your kids. And on the other hand, if you want to teach your kids that there’s a Santa — great. That’s fine. The cool (albeit tedious, stressful, and at times, soul crushing) part of parenting is you get to filter what you want to your kids.

See what I did there?

But the biggest thing to stress to those young, inquiring minds? Don’t be an asshole. If Jimmy doesn’t believe in Santa, be kind to Jimmy and move on. And if Lola believes in Santa, be kind to Lola and move on. It’s really that simple.

And trust me, folks — this applies to all of you adults reading out there too. Can we stop with these unnecessary conversations? Can we just allow people to live and let live? These Christmas wars always make me wonder if I can actually roll my eyes to the complete other side of my head. They’re pointless. Teach your kids whatever you want — religion, creed, lesson — whatever. It’s your kid. It’s your family.

Let’s just all agree on this one thing: We can all teach kindness and acceptance. It’s not hard. In fact, some pretty powerful people of our past have shown this to be true.

I’ll end with this: it boils down to that good ol’ fashioned golden rule. How do you want people to treat you? How do you want people to treat your kids? Well, there’s your answer. I’m sure none of you answered, “I’d like someone to be a self-righteous indignant prick to Jimmy to make him feel terrible for believing ____________.”

Focus on that, and suddenly, a lot of questions are clear. So, whatever and however you celebrate this holiday season, I hope it’s a wonderful one.

2 thoughts on “Can Everyone Just Calm the Hell Down? – Holiday Edition

  1. Richard Stamats says:

    When we read, watch a movie or see a play with great pleasure we move our mind into the story. Sometimes we seem to move our heart and soul into the story too. Our dreams take us into far away realms that fill us with inordinate visions and emotions. Capturing that supernal quality assures us of the immensity of this life and the potential of an anotherness…and wonder is created. So let us embellish that sense of awe, that magic, so that we can imagine better things to accomplish for this real world. Advancement in the world of all human endeavors starts with imagination, so let it flourish and may we learn to practice it more often.

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